“Is Christmas here already?” Yes it is. “It’s not that time of the year again is it?” I’m afraid it is. “I’m not ready for Christmas yet, this year has gone way too fast.” Neither am I, yes it has, now can we all move on because talking about is not going to hold Rudolph and his gang back whether we like it or not.
Let’s just accept that next week is December and all the good and bad of this month are on their way back.
The stress levels are going to increase gradually as the chore list mounts up. The tensions will inevitably grow as we make contact with family we may not always get along with but must attempt to suddenly work together as a team to create one happy, loving family day around a decorated tree.
Everywhere you turn there’s going to be a symbol of Christmas that insinuates this is a time of only goodwill and a whole lot of cheer, but let’s face it, that’s not necessarily the case. In fact, ever thought that that pretty little tinsel thing make not always brighten up someone’s day?
Christmas can be one of the loneliest days of the year for many people and I think we should stop complaining “oh crap, it’s that time of year” and spare a thought for those that have really good reasons to seriously dread the month and everything it brings with it.
Basically, all those lovely happy commercials you see on television of the two parents, a couple of kids and a grandparent or two, doesn’t exist for some people in the world and many of us rarely give them a thought. We’re too busy whizzing around town from party to party, ticking things off our list.
Imagine sitting at home feeling the energy of the world celebrating and rejoicing when you know the only person thinking of you might well be yourself? I hate to say it but in a very painful way Christmas is like having your nose rubbed in everyone else’s fortunate place and then having it wrenched away again by an invisible force that whispers in your ear on the way out ‘looks good doesn’t it but that’s not for you. You don’t have anyone to do all this with.’
How sad do you imagine this could be? Would you not rather have Auntie Faye testing your patience than waking up on the day with nowhere to go? With the world celebrating the joy of giving while you feel like the only one that didn’t receive?
It’s any wonder people with drinking problems end up cranking it up over Christmas and New Year periods when the loneliness kicks in. I wish everyone could experience loneliness just once at some point in their lives because it’s a feeling that isn’t always easy to explain.
I’m not embarrassed to say I have felt the difference between depression and loneliness and they really are distinctively different in how they make you feel.
Loneliness is about as low as you can get. It’s hard not to take personally when you feel that the world is operating on some sort of network that you just can’t get in to. There’s all sorts of reasons that one can find themselves lonely so it’s not always easy to promote warnings that can keep us mindful of falling into its trap.
I’ve mentioned this before, but I think it’s worth reminding at this December lead up time that having experienced loneliness and depression both myself at different times, that I felt that depression is debilitating, but loneliness is soul destroying. They’re separate, have a different voice, neither of which you would ever want to hear.
We should just be mindful of how lucky we are if we have somewhere to go on Christmas Day and if someone buys us a gift. There will be those in our community that will spend all those key moments and each special holiday day, completely and utterly alone, waking up with absolutely no one.
HAVE YOU EXPERIENCED LONELINESS? EXPLAIN HOW IT FEELS SO OTHERS CAN TRY TO EMPATHISE…x