They think, even if they don’t admit, “I wonder why she’s still single?’ Or worse, “I can see why she’s still single?”
There are times however that I demand a certain behaviour from a ‘potential’ and I believe it’s not too much to ask.
So here’s how it goes, and it goes like this a lot….. I give said bloke my phone number. Pretty simple, so far so good. Then here’s where things get tricky.
At some point soon thereafter, I expect the bloke to call me. That’s right, I would like them to call me, not text me. Although I realize that most men these days hide behind the text as a way of testing the waters to see if I’m still happy I gave out my number.
But the thing is, I was born before 1980, and along with all others of that time, grew up picking up the phone receiver.
Dialing a number, and having the guts to say “HELLO”. Yes sometimes it was scary, but oh the joy when the person you like, was at the other end.
You knew that someone really liked you in those days because they made a tiny bit of effort to get the ball rolling. They really did want to talk to me. Which came in real handy when we’d finally catch up.
So I can’t shake having an issue with a guy texting all the way leading up to a date. Is that high maintenance, or just holding on to some old fashioned standards that I believe should still exist?
I met a guy once, through good friends, who I had a great time hanging out with at a wedding. He seemed, extremely keen to catch up, but when the time came, rather than ring me, he texted, “So you still keen to catch up?”
Call me a psycho boys……such an easy cop out for ‘she expected me to make an effort’ but that pissed me off. I responded with “yeah love to, give me a call!”
He came back with ANOTHER text that said, “cool, where do you want to meet?”
Ok, I’m done now. Because I made it fairly clear, and politely that now was the time to USE the phone to seal the deal, and he didn’t. I found that insulting. And always will.
I then went back, with “If you can’t pick up the phone, then I don’t think we should bother catching up!”
Apparently that made me HIGH MAINTENANCE. Yes I can see if looked a bit harsh. In hindsight I should have simply not responded.
I had another ‘date’ recently, that came about when I didn’t even think he was going to ask me out, AND wasn’t even attracted to him. Out of the blue he said face to face “so should we catch up?”
Caught on the hop, and meeting him through a friend, I said “Oh, um…. yeah, sure!” He takes my number, and two days later, texts me…and says “so when are you available to catch up?”
Now let me point out, that this guy was not born in the 80’s…so…no excuse…but I go with it, right up until the day.
So we arrange that on said day (he’d explained he wasn’t finished work 7.30pm) , and by 6pm I still haven’t heard from him. No stress, as I wasn’t necessarily keen, and I was doing my own thing. However, again am I high maintenance to think that he should have checked in to see if we’re still on?
He then TEXTS ME, as I’m out with friends, saying “just finished work, will RING you soon.” Ok, fine, at least there’ll be a call. And without going into it, his job was fairly hard-core
So he rings, I tell him that I will wait at the bar with my friends until he arrives. Making it very clear that these friends would leave when he arrives.
I then get a TEXT back…saying “sorry not keen on coming to XXX street. A private catch up is all I can do.”
Now, NO, we didn’t meet on at 2am at some sleazy dive, we met through nice friends.
So I cut him some slack thinking, “ok maybe he thinks that I’m saying ‘come hang out with my friends’” So I text back and say “Oh no, they’re leaving when you get here, so up to you?”
He comes back with “Have fun. Will give it a miss.”
Now does it make me HIGH MAINTENANCE, or is that just really dumb?
There will be no dates with the text KINGS…………. Cause I simply find it all a bit dull, and quite rude.