I won’t bother going into who the other guests might be there, as it is a private party after all, but I will confirm the other most talked about lady in Australia right now, Lara Bingle, isn’t on the list.
However I don’t want this to sound like another Lara bashing, as she’s just a young girl but what I do think is that these two women have something very significant in common that stands out to me far more than the level of their acquired fame.
Both of them lost their Dads, and both of them just might be causing themselves and those around them much unnecessary suffering because of the depth of their loss, and the relationship that they had with each man.
In terms of Gina Rinehart, you’d have to imagine that the relationship and impact her father had on her has made her the woman she is today. The good, the bad and the ugly.
Of course I don’t know this to be a fact, I only suspect as I’ve learnt of myself that many things that have sent me off course related back to my father not being around when I needed him growing up. He wasn’t always to know how much I longed for him to be there, but then at other times I believed he did, and I still lost out to someone else.
It has left me strongly believing that the relationship between that of father and daughter is so much more deep and instrumental than many of us comprehend.
I sat down with my Dad after the Four Corners story on Gina Rinehart and family, and mentioned I felt some sympathy for her and that I wasn’t sure that her son, who is fighting for his inheritance in what seems to be very odd tactics by his mother, was really rising above his mother’s behaviour. To me he was still determined to carry on the family tradition of fighting over money.
Sure he’s owed it, but wouldn’t it be a more powerful symbolic move to say “You know what mother; you keep the money if it’s so important to you. I will show you how to live a great life with money never taking me hostage like it has to you.”
And then I said to my father, “Dad I wonder how her life would have been different if her father spent more time with her when she was young?” To which he said he believed they were always together. “Oh no,” he added, “I think they were very close!”
But what he took as ‘very close’ was that he’d seen footage of her at 19 walking into one the family mine’s with her father. Is that really the sort of fatherly attention that one craves when you’re a young girl? It wasn’t for me. I loved going to work with Dad on school holidays when I’d visit him, and got a huge kick out of having a vanilla slice and pasty for lunch, but hearing about fork lift trucks and shag pile carpet wasn’t my idea of a Kodak moment.
I don’t understand why so many people write off families with money. From what I’ve witnessed, the more money, the more family unhappiness and the more damage that’s done.
Perhaps in order for Gina to be close to Lang Hancock, her worshipped father, she had to show interest in his company. Maybe her value as a person became so inter-twined on her attitude towards business, and the praise from her father based on not what sort of young woman she’d become, but how much promise she was showing in following in his foot steps?
If that was the case, then it’s any wonder she strives for great power, and holds onto monetary gains with such an iron fist. Maybe she’s holding onto the energy of a memory, rather than the clarity of the present.
WHAT DO YOU THINK? DOES MONEY BRING YOU HAPPINESS?