Type 2 Diabetes may be more than just a lifestyle issue. Is it essentially a lack of self love?

One of the radio shows I’ll never forget was the one that I was hosting alone and fairly spontaneously that morning I decided I wanted to hold an intervention with my father live on air.

I was motivated to such an extreme and potentially humiliating idea as that morning I had received a photo of my father at his desk surrounded by a bucket of KFC and a large thick shake.  And to be honest it made me see as red as the greasy chicken’s logo.

Only months before I’d spent a week by my father’s hospital bed as part of a downward slide with his Type 2 diabetes, which resulted in him losing a toe.

Diabetes Australia explains: Type 2 diabetes results from a combination of genetic and environmental factors. Although there is a strong genetic predisposition, the risk is greatly increased when associated with lifestyle factors such as high blood pressure, overweight or obesity, insufficient physical activity, poor diet and the classic ‘apple shape’ body where extra weight is carried around the waist.

In regards to my father, I know the lifestyle factors are the main issue. As many of us do when you get ‘car crash moment’ in life, my father made promises to look after his health from that moment on.  Most, if not all of which were quickly reneged on, so when I saw the photo I was angry and felt very let down.

I knew my father’s quick wit and fairly thick skin would weather the intervention so I organized a Diabetes specialist to be on the line as I revealed to my Dad that he was live on air.

The phone lines went crazy.  The first caller was disgusted at what I’d done, the next was on my side and so it went on.  One man was crying saying he wishing his estranged daughter cared enough to take such measures, and then the last call for me summed it up.

She explained that she’d been through the same with her Dad who’d since passed and the death was slow and atrocious.  She had pleaded with him all along the way to take better care of himself but his addictions won over.

This week my Dad is back in hospital with something that has nudged the thoughts of finality that much closer.  This time I’m just sad but I’m not expecting we’re leaving here with any a-ha moments or resolutions of any kind.

Addictions to anything that doesn’t serve your physical or mental purpose are tough to get rid of.  I look at it like this, if you picture that within all of us there’s this imaginary bucket, that in order to be healthy needs to be reasonable full of love or we’re in trouble.

If for some reason in our history through upbringing or circumstance has resulted in that bucket losing some love, inside without knowing many of us choose the wrong things to try and fill it back up.

It doesn’t matter how loved I know my father is or someone you may know, if at their core they don’t believe it, they’re going to look for other things to fill it up.  And the sad thing is the more toxic these things are, the more holes are eaten away in the bucket.

As much as I still want to yell and scream to get my Dad’s attention and as much as sometimes I want to make it about me by thinking why doesn’t he love me enough to get his act together, I also know it is not about me.  I can see how his lack of love has and may continue to become my own if I choose to take it personally.

Diabetes Australia says there is ‘currently no cure for Type 2 Diabetes’, but if addictions are related to a lack of self love, then maybe love is the drug that all of us need to find more of?  A bit of therapy to find it, never hurt anyone.

11 thoughts on “Type 2 Diabetes may be more than just a lifestyle issue. Is it essentially a lack of self love?

  1. David Hutchinson
    Amber.
    I enjoy reading your comments in the Advertiser. You seem to be very in touch with yourself in terms of your strengths, foibles etc, in other words, just experiencing life, and your ability to share these inner thoughts with us all is very encouraging and admirable. You struck a special chord with me today re your dad, and your comments about loving yourself etc. I recognise this probably is true of me which I hadn’t really thought about before! Luckily (I think) I count all my blessings and keep smiling and cheerfully carry on each day anyway, and I think this is the most important thing.
    Anyway, I love hearing about your thoughts on issues, and your sometimes-introspective comments, so please carry on! Maybe one day I’ll run into you and we’ll ” do coffee” . All the best
    From an admiring David

  2. Hello David, thank you SO much for your lovely positive thoughts. I can’t tell you how much I appreciated it. Especially today. Had a friend’s funeral yesterday and Dad’s still in hospital. A few work projects aren’t firing as quickly as I’d like so it’s just nice to get some nice feedback. So big thanks to you for being one with that. Maybe one day I will run into you, although right now I’m in Melbourne. Came back a year or so ago to be nearer mum and dad. Anyway thank you David, you sound like a good soul and a nice man. Take care x

  3. All that you said is very true Amber.. its amazing that when some of our needs in childhood are not met, how it affects out adult life. I have seen some great healing of our adult life by doing inner child work, It helps us with most of the problems we encounter in adult life..through hypnosis adults can be taken back and those needs fulfilled. As parents we do not realise just a little word out of place or a glance at the wrong time can be so misinterpreted by a child’s mind.. most bad habits low self esteem and even life threatening illnesses can be the result of that missing childs need.. Parents are a worry as they get older… Getting us back as my dad says ..xxx

    • Hello Lynda, thank you so much for taking the time to comment. I’ve done an inner child workshop so this is why I know exactly where all this lack of self love programming comes from. My father also lost his mother to suicide and I can’t imagine how that leaves a young man feeling like “Did you not love me enough?” I mean can you imagine? the funny thing is that I only saw a photo of my father as a toddler earlier this year. I had never been able to picture him as any younger than a late teen because I had no idea what he looked like. When I saw that photo I just felt so heart broken suddenly, fully realising that he was little once like me. People don’t realise that so much of a person’s beliefs about themselves can be cemented by such an early age. Kids as they say are like sponges. Little words or behaviours that they see and hear growing up can have a huge impact. I once heard a well known woman say that in regards to her children and the shocking back and forth she was having in her relationship with their father “Oh kids are so resilient!” It made me SO mad. I thought you naive woman. NO actually I thought what a convenient attitude and belief. It diminished all responsibility she had as a mother by protecting them from an environment where their dad was constantly letting them down and choosing another woman over their emotional needs. Sadly I think previous generations like my dad are the ones getting Type 2 diabetes because their parents didn’t understand themselves, looked down on therapy and just had the attitude of ‘get on with it’. It’s very sad. Anyway, thank you again for your thoughtful comments. take care x

  4. Your article on Diabetes was great you have a very holistic warm approach to life and writing, I guess thats why you are good at what you do. My dream is that the medical profession and the alternative healing profession recognise each other as part of the whole and support each other for the highest good of the patient, and realize that they each play an important part in the healing process.
    I am a Reiki healer and understand the necessity for joining and cooperation of both professions. I am just grateful for someone like you in the media who is helping open minds up to a deeper existence.
    Love Milica

    • Oh thank you so much Milica! I couldn’t agree more with what you say. It does not have to be one without the other. But medicine without the ‘inner’ therapy is just masking the problem and just throwing people back out in the world to live a secondary existence and potentially allowing disease to grow that is formed from so much inner grief and blocked energy. You know I once heard that before we arrive in the human form we’re all part of one loving energy field. When we’re born we’re suddenly detached from that and unless we have the perfect loving bubble of energy around us the whole time, we’re constantly searching for something or feeling a bit lost. Which is another reason why we go looking for others to fill that void. But really, if somehow we can just work on what’s inside us, making sure we find our own way to love ourselves then we’ll never get close again to that full blown love that we sub consciously know exists once we’re out of the human body. Anyway, not something I mouth off to just anyone, but I think you probably get it. 🙂

  5. Sam Catford Food for thought for sure. Amber Petty you should check out SOE Bioremedies Liquid Minerals. They’re made by a Naturopath here in Adelaide and work on the principle that our emotions can have a significant impact on our well-being. The results have been amazing…and I have experienced them personally. You can read the feedback on their website under ‘Experiences’ http://www.soe-bioremedies.com.au

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    • How fascinating and yes I agree. You should see my book shelves, they are stacked with books about the mind. My first ever book in this sort of stuff was Many Lives, Many Masters. Have you read it? Love to you too xx

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