Well, I guess seeing I have this blog, it would probably be a little remiss if I didn’t talk about my recent little shindig, my 40th birthday bash.  For obvious reasons, everyone else in the media certainly has been.

Of course I realise the attention directed at my ‘whoop up’  – as one of the mags described it –  clearly wasn’t about of me.  I am well aware it is because one of my many beautiful guests is a woman so many of us adore. Yes, I’ll say it once, Princess Mary.

By the time Thursday of last week rolled around I was in a serious state of panic that my excitement and joy for the event was going to be overlooked and replaced by anxiety and distress, due to the intensity of the media scrutiny.

I had to reset my head every hour as I realised that I was being distracted by the constant media calls, which is a little like playing a game of tennis with someone that keeps hitting the ball over the fence.  Frustrating, and a little exhausting.  The problem is, and always is, they are all requesting the one thing I could not and cannot give them.  Details about a private friendship and a private party.

You see I don’t think I’m any different to any of you reading this, when it comes to respecting any of your friend’s privacy.  There are always certain things and times that we share with those that we love, that has an unwritten rule that says, “we don’t share”.  If there is no trust in a friendship then it no longer exists.

It’s hard sometimes as I realise people forget that if someone’s in the public eye, I guess it’s seen as ‘game on’.  But there is no price that can be placed on friendship.  It is, and always should be priceless.

And priceless my party indeed was.  You see, for me, this 40th, was my engagement party, my wedding, my Tupperware party, and my baby shower.  All those things I’ve never had, where all of those you love, come together celebrate you.  And celebrate, we did.

So much anticipation, and so many elements to fit in to one night.  One of the many highlights of the night was my ‘life maids’. The bridesmaids that never got signed up, because the bride never met the right groom.  Those women in my life who have supported me, reprimanded me, and taught me things that have made me the person I am today.  All six girls were forced to wear hot pink sashes with big bold letters saying AMBER’S LIFEMAID.  They did so humbly, and all gave touching, and of course, embarrassing speeches.

At one point as the suitably outrageous Matt Gilbertson, in his Hans garb began his performance by saying “Of course, we’ve got royalty here tonight!”, then turned to my father, (who has been in the carpet game all his life, and owned a store back in the 70’s called Carpet Kingdom), “Yes, we’ve got the Carpet King here tonight.”  Priceless.

I’ve always suspected that in a past life I may have been a drag queen, due to my love of sequins, miming, and Dolly Parton’s ‘Working Nine To Five’.  So the lovely Fifi and Rochelle burst through the doors around midnight and headed straight to the stage,  belting out a bit of Dolly.  Of course I get up there with them and start taking over the show…….   I remembered about 80% of the words however which I guess isn’t too bad considering how much champagne was involved.

Another little surprise of the night was my samba routine with the sexy Latino girls Las Chicas Bomba.  I’d secretly been having lessons with the gorgeous Emily Stansfield, but in all honesty, I wasn’t that good.  There were lots of feathers and sequins and very loud drums which I’m praying distracted from the fact that I completely forgot the routine as soon as I came out.  Oh well, as I’ve worked out now, “If in doubt, shake your butt!”  Which is exactly what I did for most of the dance.

I just felt so proud as I looked around the room and saw all these amazing friends I’ve acquired over the years.  If it’s true that you are a product of the people you surround yourself with, then I’m not half as bad as I thought.  Ha ha

The following day after the party however I started to feel very very flat.  I’d farewelled so many people I love.  Some only back to their homes interstate, and others to their new homes a long way away.  I won’t lie; I sat in bed on Sunday night and sobbed.  I hate saying goodbye. Never been good at it at all.  But I’m realistic too and I guess it’s how people describe once their wedding was over they felt really flat. Such a great lead up, such a great time, and then POOF.  Gone.

But I have memories of a night and a time that I will never forget.  I am eternally grateful that the universe and my angels (real life and up there) put on such a spectacular night for me to cherish.

If you haven’t yet turned 40, let me give you a little tip.  IT’S MORE FABULOUS THAN YOU COULD EVER IMAGINE.  xxx


  1. Congratulations Amber! Good on you for spoiling yourself and having a wonderful time with your amazing lifemaids and friends. Everyone deserves to be spoilt and showered with affection! xx

  2. Congratulations Amber,

    Just because you’ve reached 40 doesn’t mean all the things you still want for your life, won’t happen…
    40 is a gorgeous age, I’ve just gone 43 & I’m feeling even more alive, sexy & beautiful, than I have at any age… don’t give up on your dreams, what ever they are.xx

  3. So glad you had a wonderful time and the comments you made about your 40th being the wedding you never had was how I looked at mine. I had a wonderful night just a pitty for me a lot more of the people who have shaped me into the person I am could not attend. Distance can be a downer,.

    I also love your comments on Frienships! I have always valued the privacy of a true friendship,. and am so greatful I have my special friends old and new! they help make up for the faulse friends out there.

    Happy Birthday again enjoy reliving the wonderful memories for years to come, and in those low moments when you miss everyone just remember how far they travelled to be with you and that they truely are in your heart.


    ciao for now

    Deb (alias Jess! hehe)

  4. So glad to hear you enjoyed your special night Amber & that all of your family & friends could be there to help celebrate your special ‘four zero’
    I am sorry that the media where such a pain in the backside but hope that having your best friend by your side made up for those jerks being pests.
    Much love XO

  5. Dear Amber,

    You are and always will be a star! You are a shining light wherever you go.

    Turning 40 doesn’t change anything in one’s life it just makes you appreciate your life on a different level.

    Amber, I have become very philosophical, and I have come to realise that each decade of our life brings with it wisdom and learnings. The learnings that you had in your 30s carry you through to your 40’s and so on and so on.

    Your blog, said so much on a deeper level and I read into a lot of sadness, sadness that you haven’t done things in your life that you would have liked to have done. You know what, we love you just as you are! It’s ok.

    Keep doing what you are doing because you are doing wonderful! You are an inspiration to everyone that has met you and heard and seen you.

    With love and warmth always

    Paula Tresintsis
    Life Coach
    Energiser Health and Coaching

    • Thank you Paula! The next thing on my must ‘do’ list is find that wonderful man who I haven’t quite found. So yes, there’s that. But I’m so thankful for everything else so certainly don’t want to complain. Hope you’re well too Paula.xx

  6. What a wonderful wrap up of a great night. Thank you for the best party I have also ever been to. Your friends and family were simply wonderful and you were the perfect host and centerpiece for it all. I even loved the speeches. Happy birthday Amber. I’m glad you had a fantastic time. You deserve it.

    • It was gorgeous to have you there! I have a divine photo of you and a bunch of other friends. I’ll send it to you. Thanks for helping make it a good one.xx

    • Hi gorgeous! How’s England? I had an absolute ball. I can honestly say it was the best party I’ve been to. Bonus it was mine. I think everyone had a great time too. xx

  7. Sounds like a wonderful night!!! I saw bits and pieces on the news etc and you did look beautiful in your dress.
    I love the idea of your lifemaids – really clever.
    I also had a wonderful 40th and I am already planning my 50th for next year!!!

  8. Oh Amber,

    How beautifully put, you really do have a enlightening way of embracing situations and presenting your views with both grace and style, may you continue to embrace your friends and the joy they bring both close by and from a far, you are a delight.

    Thankyou for continuing to call Adelaide home and I hope your star shines on for us all to behold.

    Happy Birthday


    • Thank you Lisa! What a lovely thing to say. Adelaide is a beautiful place, and as my invitation read “PLEASE CONVERGE ON THE PLACE I HAVE FALLEN IN LOVE WITH” I really enjoyed showing off our lovely state. I provided a long list of suggestions for people to do on the Saturday, and they all went different directions and had an absolute ball. There will be no bagging Adelaide from any of my guests, that’s for sure. Hope you’re well sweety.x

  9. I’ve just discovered your blog and must say I really enjoy your writing and your life perspectives. I’m glad you had such a wonderful 40th. I have a couple of years on you and I have to say, I’m thoroughly enjoying my 40s. I was diagnosed with epilepsy earlier this year and while its been difficult to deal with and come to terms with, I know I’m much better placed to cope with it as a woman in my 40s than I ever would have been in my 20s or even 30s. As we reach our 4th decade we women are more confident, capable and sure of who we are – that’s an empowering thing! I hope you do find your ‘forever’ partner. I was lucky enough to find mine in my late 20s. Life is good (and the hard times easier) when shared with an equal and a soul mate – I know yours is out there. Thanks for your blog Amber, I’ll be a regular visitor.

  10. i hear ya sister. im 41 and i had a girls night out with my fabulous girls. limo ride followed by night at madame josephines, followed by maccas with two of the strippers (they chose to leave with the old bags instead of the twenty somethings), not a bad night indeed. like you i didnt fear aging, i celebrated it as night made up of all the special times in my life.

  11. Congrats Amber!

    Reaching 40 is just a number. Everything that you want to happen is going to happen – you just need to believe it and DO IT!
    And if you are able to push your dream closer DO IT, don’t wait till tomorrow ;-))

  12. Lol, loved you talking about your royal guest on 102.3. So funny remember when you first told the story, totally cracked up…It’s so good to have good friends no matter where they are at now. If they are still the same, that’s a true person. Hope she is handling all that pressure, good on her!! Some of us can’t handle working full-time, managing kids, sport etc….

  13. Hi Amber,
    I am so glad that you had a great night, I hope that you’re no longer feeling flat….You’ve made me look forward to my 40’s 8yrs to go haha Such a beautiful blog my favorite so far. Have a great week. Nino Xoxo

  14. Amber, what a beautiful post. I totally agree about being protective about any friends whether they be in the public spotlight or everyday people. You deserved to have your special day with your special friends without the media destoying that. And I must say, you did an amazing job to keep it as private as you did. You looked stunning in the photos I have seen, especially the ones with the showgirls.
    I am so happy for you that you had a 40th to remember. You deserve every happiness. You are a truly beautiful person.

  15. Amber this is beautiful!
    Well done, I am a late starter to the blogging but after reading this will definitely continue.
    Wish we could party all over again, I had way too much fun.
    Love You xxx

  16. Dear Amber,
    Happy Happy 4oth Birthday!!
    What a wonderful party you had! Thanks for sharing! Also what a wonderful,loyal friend you are to all you share your life with.How lucky they are to have you! Thanks for your blogs… I miss you on SAFM and now can’t wait to read what you have been up to.Thanks Amber.

    • Thank you Cathy! Isn’t this blog stuff fun. I really didn’t get what it was all about a few months ago but now I love it. It’s great to chat to like minded people. Thanks for sharing mine,xx

  17. Hey Amber.Scott here.Loving your blog.Your “SUCH” a “AMAZING”,lovely Woman.Your very inspirational.I really do hope you had a lovely Birthday.Once again,you looked ever “SO” glamorous and I send my love.Scott XO

  18. Great Read 🙂

    Rochelle was my daughters Figure Skating coach 😀 you need to ask her to show you a Triple Axel 🙂 and Fifi has done the odd bit of Choreography for her.

    AND Han’s dad is the plumber at my work 😀

  19. Hey Amber you are very good at writing and still like your blog:),

    Amber Petty, I tried to send this message to you as a private one on your facebook pages but it did not, therefore had to post it here.

    Amber Petty, I want to ask you for forgiveness that I wrote very nice comments and laid out web-pages on your blogg with the finest photos about your beautiful guests on your 40TH-party,
    it was all out of pure joy, the idea was to share the photos of the wonderful birthday party you had.
    ( )

    few days after I noticed that you must have deleted it, it’s okay I understand, it was my fault and I understand that because it’s your blog I’m not allowed to write or post photos of you with Princess Mary without your permission even if it was from your birth party.I hope you forgive me I meant no harm it was pure joy.

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