It doesn’t matter as far as I’m concerned, how much a person seems to be on a path of self-destruction, it’s still a shock to find out they’re actually gone. As was the case with the death of Amy Winehouse.
Amy lead her rock star demise in a world with far more technology and viral access than any other star in the club she now belongs to, the notorious 27 Club.
So although there is no doubt that it’s other rock star members whose battle with the demons would have created very ugly personal moments leading up to the end, more of Amy’s got caught on film.
It does seem to be an ongoing fact that the world is more intrigued by a star’s demise, than it is by their talent.
So it with almost an earnt regard that what comes next for the star’s reputation, albeit posthumously, is the elevation to legendary status after the world says goodbye.
And whilst the myths and drama of their lives remain, there are many who once again focus on the genius of the one thing that brought them into our lives – the music! Kind of a full circle type thing.
The 27 Club’s most notable members is Kurt Cobain, Jimi Hendrix, Janis Joplin, Brian Jones, Jim Morrison, and now Amy Winehouse.
There’s countless other examples of those that belong to this elite club, dying at age 27, and whether there’s something in this numerical figure and the abrupt halt of their lives, there’s the concrete fact that they were all very troubled souls.
TV gal Ruby Rose came out in disgust this week complaining of how many Twitter types were out there in cyberspace sprouting “thank god the junkie’s gone” and other such diatribe, instead of doing what the rest of us were doing, feeling quietly reflective for a star we never met, but for a human that couldn’t seem to win at living a healthy life.
What’ s just as sad as reading that a person of note has passed away in tragic circumstances, is the hateful and viciously flippant comments of the ilk this week about Amy WInehouse.
Perhaps it’s the part of me that is always hopeful that someone isn’t just a vile human being with little to no reason, but I choose to think that there must be more to a person writing words of hate in these circumstances, than what meets the eye.
It struck me earlier this year when I was telling someone close to me about a man that sadly took his own life. I was on the computer at the time and looking at photos of the now deceased man in what I’ll say, the throes of his darkness.
“Who’s that?” my loved one said. I explained the story to him, at which point he went completely berserk. I won’t go into what he said but it was clear that he wanted the image off my screen and never to be spoken of again.
It was only until a few days later as I recalled his extreme and seemingly ruthless lack of care factor towards this person who had clearly had such a tough life, certainly enough to make it want to end, that I realised that my loved one had also had a mother that had taken her own life. What fear and anger had that left in his heart?
When it comes to addictions with drugs and alcoholism, and then ultimately untimely deaths, there are more of us out there that have been touched by it, and lost either the life of someone we love, or the quality of life with that person we longed for.
So maybe some of these hurtful and dismissive responses to the death of Amy Winehouse may actually come from a place of more depth than Ruby Rose or initially myself might have thought? Perhaps it’s anger directed at Amy, but represents the one’s that we couldn’t manage to save either? Or, that we perceive didn’t try to save themselves, for the sake of us?
IS IT OK TO NOT MOURN THE LOSS OF SOMEONE WHO WAS AN ADDICT? DID THEY BRING DEATH ON THEMSELVES?