RIHANNA SENDS A DANGEROUS MESSAGE TO HER FANS……

Last week I raced down to Norwood to buy an album I’ve been dying to get. Rihanna’s new album, LOUD.

What got me was a song called ‘Only Girl (In the World)’, which I’d seen her perform at the MTV European Music Awards, and the American Music Awards.

I was in awe of how she combined this beautifully feminine appearance and stage, covered in flowers, but belts out calmly this very powerful and aggressive song to her ‘man’.

Lyrics like “WANT YOU TO MAKE ME FEEL, LIKE I”M THE ONLY GIRL IN THE WORLD…
LIKE I’M THE ONLY ONE THAT YOU’LL EVER LOVE…
LIKE I’M THE ONLY ONE WHO KNOWS YOUR HEART….ONLY GIRL IN THE WORLD”

It’s just one of those songs that got me, and I watched in total admiration, as this very pretty, powerful goddess like creature took delivered it like the superstar she is.

So I whack it on the car stereo, crank it up and before I can get to the my favourite song, I end up stopping short, and doing a massive u-turn on my new hero.

The first track from the album is titled S&M. For those not racy enough to immediately get what this stands for, it stands for Sadism/masochism, bondage/discipline Sexology A paraphilia à deux, in which sexual partner A metes physical abuse/injury, to party B, for mutual eroticism.

Not quite the sort of powerful, ‘goddess’ message I’d hoped someone like Rihanna, with so much influence over young people might be belting out.

And this from a young girl who only a year or so ago was front page world news for her ex boyfriend belting her quite literally in the face, in an ugly scene just before another awards ceremony.

In fact, with the amount of people that would be nurturing her career, at what point, does someone not stand up and question whether this sort of violent sexual flag waving is the sort of thing she should be promoting through her songs?

There is, at no age anything cool, loving or sexy about being tied up, whipped and involving chains when it comes to intimacy. Her lyrics in the song say, “STICKS AND STONES MAY BREAK MY BONES BUT CHAINS AND WHIPS EXCITE ME.”

Good lord! How stupid can someone be to be ok to try and make dangerous sex the new thing to do? What are the millions of young girls out there thinking when they hear their heroine Rihanna singing that?

I don’t think I’m being an old fogey by thinking this either, because I still remember being in my teens and being scared to death of the day that would come when I’d have my first sexual experience.

Because I was so emotionally naive that I didn’t understand what sort of connection I had to have with someone to feel safe and loved enough to do it.

The movie Puberty Blues was almost like Nightmare on Elm Street to me because I was terrified about this future point in my life where everyone was starting to get it on. Panel vans still scare me, although Chiko rolls I admit, do still excite me.

A role model like Rihanna should really know better, and should realize the power of her words. And it seems to me that at some point, before or after her violent relationship with Chris Brown, she’s decided that being tough, and sexually aggressive is the way to be in charge.

Far from it. As far as I’m concerned, it’s a hard enough gig for a young girl to ascertain whom the right person is to choose to have sex with. Someone that will protect them physically and mentally.

If she’s out there thinking that throwing whips and chains into the mix is what’s expected, then something tells me her so called ‘lover’ is going to presume she likes it rough. And an emotionally rough ride is exactly what she’s going to get.

Not something I’d be getting LOUD about Rihanna!

WHAT DO YOU THINK? SHOULD SHE BE MORE RESPONSIBLE OR AM I OVER THINKING IT?

5 thoughts on “RIHANNA SENDS A DANGEROUS MESSAGE TO HER FANS……

  1. No, you are not over analysing it. She could certainly present a ‘better’ image and it would probably be better for her and everyone else in the long run if she did. I don’t know the story to the song, who wrote it and why etc, but it sounds like many other pop songs that appeal to teenage girls, mostly froth and bubble and easily forgettable. The bigger issue as I see it is the repetitive sexualisation of young ‘beautiful’ women. I see a ravenous and vicious marketing machine that takes young attractive females and churns them out as some kind of sex goddess’s. I also think most young girls (and boys) make responsible decisions, know what is fake, what is real and their interest in pop stars touting rough sex etc is probably fleeting for most. But life is hard enough as it is without adding to the usual confusion about sex, love and other catastrophes with songs like S&M sung by a ‘pop star’. There does need to be a counter balance to bad messages whatever they may relate to but how to make it as equally appealing?

    One thing I think that helps young (and not so young) people with issues involving love and sex in all its forms and variations is good information, good self esteem and credible responsible role models. Rihanna and her management team don’t appear to be in the business of good information or good role models, they are in the business of making money.

  2. Thankyou for writing this article. I agree with you completely.
    Can you tell me, was there any warning written on the cover of the CD?
    Like you I am horrified that Rihanna and the whole production team think it is OK to produce songs like this. There is enough sexual violence in the media already and this just gives very wrong messages to teenagers. Surely, there must be laws restricting the content of CDs? Who can the public complain to?

    Thanks again.
    Regards, Jane

  3. I’d say you are over thinking it, but then, I like BDSM. There is a lot to be enjoyed in the sphere, and there’s no more “danger” in it than there is, say, driving a car. Yes, there is some, but there are also many, many things to do to minimize that.

  4. Greetings Amber,

    There is a VAST difference between abuse and BDSM. Those in the BDSM community will often be less tollerant of abuse than the rest of the ‘vanilla’ world. Probably because we know the differance. If you really want to know what its about, drop me a line and I can explain it 🙂

    As for Rihanna singing about it – Do you really think it would make the album as the number 1 song if there wasnt an audience for it?

    Perhaps if our society educated people on a subject such as BDSM instead of making it a taboo or finding out about it through song, it would be less scary and practiced properly.

    Safe Sane and Consentual – The first rule of BDSM. I will wager you had no idea of that rule. I do not mean to bring you offence, merely point out that there is more to it than you might think.

    I wish you well

    Pots.

  5. Although it may not be the ideal, I think it’s pretty evident that the ‘goddess’ industry promotes ‘economic’ gain as opposed to ‘moral’. I don’t particularly like it since I’m not an advocate for the vilification of women, but I see it for what it is. Do what I do…don’t buy the albums…it’s a start 🙂

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