What got me was a song called ‘Only Girl (In the World)’, which I’d seen her perform at the MTV European Music Awards, and the American Music Awards.
I was in awe of how she combined this beautifully feminine appearance and stage, covered in flowers, but belts out calmly this very powerful and aggressive song to her ‘man’.
Lyrics like “WANT YOU TO MAKE ME FEEL, LIKE I”M THE ONLY GIRL IN THE WORLD… LIKE I’M THE ONLY ONE THAT YOU’LL EVER LOVE… LIKE I’M THE ONLY ONE WHO KNOWS YOUR HEART….ONLY GIRL IN THE WORLD”
It’s just one of those songs that got me, and I watched in total admiration, as this very pretty, powerful goddess like creature took delivered it like the superstar she is.
So I whack it on the car stereo, crank it up and before I can get to the my favourite song, I end up stopping short, and doing a massive u-turn on my new hero.
The first track from the album is titled S&M. For those not racy enough to immediately get what this stands for, it stands for Sadism/masochism, bondage/discipline Sexology A paraphilia à deux, in which sexual partner A metes physical abuse/injury, to party B, for mutual eroticism.
Not quite the sort of powerful, ‘goddess’ message I’d hoped someone like Rihanna, with so much influence over young people might be belting out.
And this from a young girl who only a year or so ago was front page world news for her ex boyfriend belting her quite literally in the face, in an ugly scene just before another awards ceremony.
In fact, with the amount of people that would be nurturing her career, at what point, does someone not stand up and question whether this sort of violent sexual flag waving is the sort of thing she should be promoting through her songs?
There is, at no age anything cool, loving or sexy about being tied up, whipped and involving chains when it comes to intimacy. Her lyrics in the song say, “STICKS AND STONES MAY BREAK MY BONES BUT CHAINS AND WHIPS EXCITE ME.”
Good lord! How stupid can someone be to be ok to try and make dangerous sex the new thing to do? What are the millions of young girls out there thinking when they hear their heroine Rihanna singing that?
I don’t think I’m being an old fogey by thinking this either, because I still remember being in my teens and being scared to death of the day that would come when I’d have my first sexual experience.
Because I was so emotionally naive that I didn’t understand what sort of connection I had to have with someone to feel safe and loved enough to do it.
The movie Puberty Blues was almost like Nightmare on Elm Street to me because I was terrified about this future point in my life where everyone was starting to get it on. Panel vans still scare me, although Chiko rolls I admit, do still excite me.
A role model like Rihanna should really know better, and should realize the power of her words. And it seems to me that at some point, before or after her violent relationship with Chris Brown, she’s decided that being tough, and sexually aggressive is the way to be in charge.
Far from it. As far as I’m concerned, it’s a hard enough gig for a young girl to ascertain whom the right person is to choose to have sex with. Someone that will protect them physically and mentally.
If she’s out there thinking that throwing whips and chains into the mix is what’s expected, then something tells me her so called ‘lover’ is going to presume she likes it rough. And an emotionally rough ride is exactly what she’s going to get.
Not something I’d be getting LOUD about Rihanna!
WHAT DO YOU THINK? SHOULD SHE BE MORE RESPONSIBLE OR AM I OVER THINKING IT?