In fact, I have at least 6 lines either side of my eyes to prove that much of my life, has been spent with my face screwed up, mid swing of a hard-core guffaw.
But, I do find cheap shots, and cheap humour at someone else’s expense, ever so dull and infuriating. And if you’re a comedian that makes money from such gags, then you should be driven to Centre link to get a real job.
Growing up as a teenager, as much as I may have appeared to be growing up a little too fast at times, I was always a little behind in a few key areas that I felt no need to budge on.
Being labelled “frigid” one day, came as an awful blow I thought at the time, but I was soon to realise, when someone wants to shoot a real arrow into your heart, then apparently calling you ‘easy’ is sure to get you where it hurts.
But I learnt that this was used to get a reaction, by those that feel you need to be brought down a peg or two. Or perhaps by someone that you rejected. It starts in the schoolyard, and wheeled out again when certain adults regress.
So I do applaud Nicole Cornes taking on one of the ‘boys cub’ boy, Mick Molloy after his childish, schoolyard humour, which he so thoughtlessly threw out there on national television. There’s simply no excuse for such behaviour.
I also congratulate her for holding her head high in court, accompanied by her young daughter Amy. Certainly a good lesson for mother to show her daughter that there are cruel idiots out there in the world that think they can play god with someone’s reputation.
It just should never matter as to whether the person who’s subjected to the rumour is someone you perceive to be likeable or otherwise; it’s just poor form.
This is someone’s wife, and someone’s mother. Just because someone is in the public eye, does not mean it’s bad luck and they need to cop it. It’s bullying to the highest, and lowest degree.
The lazy people are all too quick to revel in someone else’s rumour, but the joy of standing in judgment of another, is usually about the person doing the judging. I believe it’s often because it makes them feel so good that they can’t get enough.
For instance, the person being defamed, perhaps they look like they have it all and you don’t? Perhaps they have more money than you and that doesn’t sit well? Or maybe they look a certain way and you have issues with your looks?
But it’s not just the blokes that love a good “she’s a loose woman” tag. Don’t think some women don’t love it as well.
It’s a shame, because although I believe most men don’t truly know how it feels for a woman to be labelled with that four letter word starting in S, most women should surely understand what that label can do to one’s self worth?
So here’s what I suggest as a little check list to those who like to snigger at someone else’s expense, in relation to such insinuations at Molloy’s – 1. Was I there when the sex took place? 2. Do I know the target of the rumour personally? 3. Am I enjoying this rumour just a little too much, and why? 4. Am I fuelling the rumour by repeating it to keep it fresh?
And just like one of those Cleo magazine quizzes would go – if your answers match the following – 1. YES 2. YES 3. YES 4. NO, then maybe you’re not that happy with yourself? Or maybe you’ve done something a little naughty yourself?
Oh the joy of a diversion.