Last year I did something that quite frankly left me feeling just a tad repulsed and extremely self conscious. I had a colonic irrigation. I kept hearing how amazing it would make me feel after the humiliation and discomfort faded from my memory. Apparently I would even lose weight and my skin would glow like never before. I figured if I could spend a night tottering around in my most fabulous and crippling shoes, how painful could this be?
According to Rae Morris, top Aussie make up artist, “the ‘colonic’ is a model’s secret weapon. They have them regularly, because they make them look and feel amazing.” Fantastic I thought to myself, finally I’ve cracked their code. So far taking a photo in to the hairdresser of Jennifer Aniston expecting to leave looking like her twin, hadn’t quite panned out as I’d hoped.
On a less superficial side however, thinking that I could clear my system out of all the crap I’ve jammed in it all year, as a health option also sounded pretty enticing. The procedure I’ll admit, is hard to throw a positive spin on, as it involves a hose being placed in your rear end, and a whole heap of water being pumped in and out, over the course of an hour or so. Not everyone’s cup of tea I found out, and “never again” I heard myself mutter as I left my third appointment.
Did it make me feel lighter? I guess so. Didn’t it make me lose weight? I don’t think so, but it did make me feel mentally like I’d got rid of some unwanted ‘crap’ that may have been holding me back over the years.
Towards the end of last year however, I discovered by accident, a different way of getting rid of toxic waste, and stuff that had been holding me back in my pursuit towards living a healthier, happier life! I discovered what I now call, the ‘social irrigation’.
A ‘social irrigation’ is essentially getting rid of the toxic people in your life that are no longer good for your health! I realized that as I put one foot forward, certain people, often unintentionally, were putting me two steps back. I got to a point where I had to ask myself why it was I was holding onto these friends, when it was becoming very clear that something in my gut was telling me ‘this no longer feels right’.
I noticed that some of my more recently formed friendships made me feel lighter, more positive, and sat better in my stomach, because I was attracted to them based on the person I am today, and not the person I was back then. The friends we make for instance back at school are often formed because of the similarities we share. Where we went to school, did they live close by, do we laugh at the same jokes?
When we’re older, what we need in our friendships is often totally different to what we needed in the past. As we get older we enjoy different activities, need different medications and even dress differently, and really the same at some point goes for our relationships.
An extreme version of the ‘social irrigation’ for example, would have to be my mother who many years ago, found out that her de-facto husband, had been cheating on her with her friend. She went through her address book and liquid papered out every person she felt had known about the affair and not told her. By flushing out those people in her life that she didn’t trust, allowed her to move forward rather than being bogged down by doubt.
Just like the old colonic irrigation, the social version may be really uncomfortable and unpleasant at the time, leaving you feeling a sense of grief and loss. But the great news is once you’ve lost the weight you’ll have even more energy for the people that you know feel good.