Part of being successful at something means you’ve poured hours and hours in to perfecting what it is that you’ve chosen to succeed at. Naturally if you’ve worked your way to the top, there can be a sense that you deserve to be there.
For some unfortunate reason though, it seems to be a human trait, perhaps a western trait, that once someone has arrived at the top their industry where they are looked up to or revered, quite often become disconnected to the people that most of the time put them there.
The most obvious example of that which we’re all being painfully subjected to at present is of course the world of politics. Ego maniacs running around thinking they’re the saviours of the world, smiling their forced smiles, kissing babies in front of cameras and just generally existing in a bubble that they themselves have blown up around themselves.
It’s almost an accepted state of being for those who’ve reached celebrity status in the world of entertainment, and disappointingly I’ve found that those who I’ve looked up to, supported or even worked with in this arena, end up lacking in the sort of graciousness that should go with being paid big dollars to do what they love.
It never really made sense to me that so many well known names in music, TV, radio or film couldn’t even manage to pretend they were pleased with meeting someone that clearly was welcoming them with warmth and a heart full of compliments.
One of the issues with our western world seems to be that many of us believe it’s so important to be successful or famous for what we do, that our focus on things such as being thankful and grateful just doesn’t seem to rate a mention. And we seem to expect and accept this.
Now we’ve all got our specific interests in life that our partners or friends may not share, whether that be gardening, comic books or even model trains, and in each of these areas there is someone who’s at the top of their game. Someone who the rest of us may not remotely be aware of because they’re not mainstream like a football player or some guy in the Game Of Thrones. But there’s the rockstar equivalent in every career that enjoys a fan base of some sort.
It really reminded me this weekend how being gracious and humble some rockstars of their field can be and how sad it is that this can’t just be the norm in other areas that require immense talent.
Whilst it might be unknown or of no interest to another, but my fascination of late is learning all about the world of Tarot reading. Four of the most celebrated and highest selling authors in this field from American and the UK took part in an International Tarot Conference this weekend. Mary Greer, Caitlin Mathews, Amber Jayanti and Rachel Pollack have written hundreds of books collectively and have inspired, healed and educated people all over the world.
Although all of them there to perform a role, what was just wonderfully refreshing was how gracious they were with their time and given all leading international teachers and spiritual trailblazers, rather than race off to their hotel rooms once they’d done their official bit, each took the time to attend other people’s workshops as if they were still students.
Not only were they were genuinely honoured to be invited to the event as guest speakers, but they were approachable and engaged in all facets of the weekend that one couldn’t help but almost forget that they were all world leaders in their particular game.
It’s a great thing that we encourage our children and each other to strive for the top of whatever they desire to be, but it would be lovely if more people recognised the importance of remembering where we came from, being eternally grateful and humble enough to give back, regardless of whether it was a photo opportunity.