Such tragic news to hear that the very beautiful and talented girlfriend of Mick Jagger reportedly took her own life in New York on Sunday. If the Rolling Stones were not due to embark on their Australian tour then many of us might have heard the news of L’Wren’s passing, felt terribly sad for Mick Jagger and then moved on. But the cloud of this story is hanging over us longer as thousands of fans had March 22nd in their diaries as the night they’d spend with their favourite band.
I think there’s more to this gloomy story that we should take note of. L’Wren Scott was said to have got herself and her business into huge financial debt, unable to pay creditors and staff as she presumably tried to keep up the façade that all was well with her business and mental state. A similar story to one recently linked to the passing of Charlotte Dawson although slightly more buried as the focus became largely about her battle with social media bullies.
With both of these public stories, lies a thread to a theme that’s not simply an issue facing celebrities or those involved in fashion. This is about people not surviving the very difficult financial times we’re now living in.
Our Australian economy feels like it is diving depressingly downwards or at least standing painfully still. It’s not a rumour but a fact that this is more than just a rocky patch, this is past that, as if we’re sailing smoothly now in the wrong direction with no end in sight.
So I truly believe that there urgently needs to be more open and public discussion in this country right now about how are we going to make sure we don’t see more of us in our own relative financial mess, manage the situation so we don’t get to a point where we can’t see any hope anymore.
I understand some people reading this column right now will know they are financially out of control, but won’t share their truth with anyone because of pride. But what is pride if it’s no longer about honesty? How can one stay proud but know they’re faking it? If sitting in a secret rather than searching for a solution by admitting you need help is being proud, then maybe your idea of pride needs urgent updating?
Another reason some people financially fake it is that there’s just so many of the types of people in life that just love having others envy all that they’ve got. You know him, the guy at the pub banging on about how great business is and the new motorbike he’s just bought.
You probably know her too, the mum at your local school who could never bear to admit her family won’t be going on that fabulous holiday again this year because they can’t pay their bills? Or that every time she now looks at her expensive handbag she’s forced to realise how much she could do with that money back?
I don’t have tolerance for people talking themselves up. Let’s just cut the crap and be ok with admitting times are tough, and let’s agree to make each other feel ok about putting up our hands for help?
So I’ll go first, here’s 5 TIPS I’VE LEARNT SINCE MY BANK BALANCE LOST WEIGHT;
- 1. It’s not my business what you think about me 2. A decline in budget can be a gift that pushes you to create more thoughtful habits, worth sticking to when the money comes back in 3. Make an effort to remember the things that bring you joy that don’t cost a single cent 4. Barter up baby! What can you offer someone in return for something they want from you? 5. If everything you once knew feels like it’s dying, maybe the universe is telling you to plant seeds elsewhere that I bet will grow!
IF YOU HAVE ANY POSITIVE BELIEFS OR TIPS ON MONEY, WOULD LOVE YOU TO SHARE? And of course if anyone is feeling overwhelmed by their financial situation, you can always vent here or share with someone you trust before things get too dark x