Bethenny Frankel is still my hero regardless of her divorce. And she’s coming to town…

Whether you watch her show or not, most of us know who Ellen DeGeneres is.  Her talk show airs all over the globe and she has squillions of fans.  Anyone that ends a humorous show with the words ‘be kind to one another’ deserves much success.

behennyWhen a woman as clever and powerful as Ellen decides there is another woman out there that deserves her own talk show, and signs her up to her company, she must have something pretty unique.

Bethenny Frankel, soon to launch her own talk show thanks to Ellen, first came to my awareness as a cast member of The Real Housewives of New York, airing here on Foxtel.

The show essentially follows a group of atrociously behaved women who pretty much go from one catfight to the next.  Although Bethenny herself got dragged into a succession of pointless bitch fights, she cleverly brought something else to the show by being painfully and amusingly real.

She was the only one of the show that didn’t have a partner and was honest in owning that she was hopeless at relationships and had about as much baggage as Jennifer Lopez going on a world tour.

All of this baggage was played out for the cameras through her counseling sessions, where she thrashed out her issues regarding her parents and her crazy childhood.  But it was never done through a ‘poor me’ vein, it was done by a desire to own it and being tough enough to face it.  And along the way she gathered fans that resonated with her struggle and learnt by her revelations.

After a couple of series of being in the hit series, she left to begin her spin off show, Bethenny Getting Married? Having endeared her to millions of women, we cheered her on when she met a gorgeous guy called Jason Hoppy.  She did her best not to screw it up and used her newfound self-knowledge to guide her through.

While the relationship was gathering momentum, so too was her company Skinny Girl cocktails, a range of alcohol targeted to women.  To the point where the once single girl who couldn’t afford her rent at one time, was gradually becoming a multi-millionaire through its success.  And then if that wasn’t enough, she found out she was pregnant.

All of the dreams this now famous woman thought would never be hers, were all erupting at once.  She sold the company for a reported $120 million US, wrote a best selling book, married the handsome Jason and gave birth to a beautiful baby girl.  And the show followed the lot.

I’ll admit I cried through a lot of it and like millions of other now die hard Bethenny fans, used her as inspiration to believe that so too might I be able to one day get the lot if I sift through my crap.

No doubt along with her fans, I grieved recently when news broke that her marriage was over.  With all this going on, and both sides of the marriage struggling to find themselves in the chaos of it all, as happens every day all over the world, the real world, they had to go their separate ways.

Australia will get to know Bethenny soon as she joins Ellen on her trip to Australia.  Although her marriage didn’t work, she was gifted with a divine child.  Her inspiration now for millions of people will be to show others that she can forgive herself for the romantic relationship not working out, but to appreciate that it was meant to happen to bring her baby girl into this world.

I’ve heard it said that God doesn’t throw us anything we can’t handle.  A little tough to suck up at certain points in our lives, granted.  But when the gift of a child is part of a union that came to an end, then was any of it really ever a tragic mistake?   Does anyone really need to keep beating themselves up?

DO YOU FIND IT HARD TO LET GO OF THE RELATIONSHIP?  HOW HAVE YOU DEALT WITH YOUR DIVORCE?

 

28 thoughts on “Bethenny Frankel is still my hero regardless of her divorce. And she’s coming to town…

  1. Amber
    I read your page in The Advertiser today and shock horror its another wannabe tv reality star. Its really is a page turner fairdunkum!!! I have turned off the TV on these people.
    Give us something with bite and interest. Reality Housewives pleaseeeee. Amber you are a better journalist than that. Its lazy journalism to write about a TV program you have just watched and has no relevance to the REALWORLD.
    These people are not interesting persons Just TV wannabeees!!
    Dont fall from grace Amber taking the easyway and reporting gutter stories of no interest to the general public. I read the Advertiser for great stories and when I see you name come up in any future pages I will just turn the page.

    • Well Woody/Darren, you are just judgemental and lazy yourself. You have absolutely no idea what you’re talking about in regards to who this woman is and why she has gained so many fans around the world. You obviously feel ever so high and mighty by seeing the words ‘reality tv’ and then thinking you’re so above it. My column is NOT ABOUT REALITY TV Woody, it’s about what this woman represents to millions of other women, so if you have no time to get to know what you’re slagging off, then yes by all means turn the page next week because we’re not suited.

  2. Thanks Amber,

    I have never heard of Bethany was but in reading your article was inspired by the fact she not only faced her crap but most importantly made the choice to change her situation. It’s great to see how her life has so dramatically and completely transformed providing a very powerful example and motivation to countless others, including myself, that we are capable of doing the same.

    Thanks for sharing!

    cheers

    • YES YES that’s what I love about her. She’s seriously done the hard work in terms of owning her stuff and taking on board the advice and a-ha moments from her counsellor. She…from what we saw on the show…tried to so hard to keep her marriage together and if anything blamed herself too much, or was so patient with the ex when he was seriously heaping the shit on her unfairly alot of the time. He was using the stuff she’d owned up to some times to push the blame onto her but she just so graciously just kept trying to make it work. I too have done SO much work on myself and I continue to every day and it really does pay off. I just wish more people would forgive themselves and others by learning about themselves so there wasn’t this spread of unnecessary grief, anger and sadness. Thanks for reading. Good luck on your journey.x

  3. I loved this article! Have watched Bethenny throughtout Real Housewives of New York and then on Bethenny Getting Married and Bethenny Ever After. Have laughed and cried through it all. She is as ‘real’ as it gets. Wish I could see her when she is here!

    • So glad you liked it Andrea. You’ve obviously had the sort of experience that I have had with her. She’s been fabulous. of course she’s incredibly PR savvy but that doesn’t mean she’s not real. And those counselling sessions were what really hooked me into her life. I’m so sad it didn’t work out for her and Jason but she still has the most incredible life and she deserves every bit of it. Good on Ellen for putting her power behind her too. It’s thanks to her that Bethenny will be noticed by millions of other women like us that haven’t yet got on board. Thanks for commenting.x

  4. Loved this article, excellent assesment, Bethenny is truly an inspiration, life has few setbacks and I am sure her divorce is weighing heavily on her heart but as a fighter she will be okay, so excited about her trip to Australia 🙂

  5. you’re right Taylor, her divorce would be weighing SO heavily on her heart and I bet she’s questioning herself constantly while she tries to get through it. Especially when she has so much success still flowing through her door it would be hard not to think, is this all coming at the price of my marriag? Or did I care about success more than I cared about him? But from the small parts we saw of her in the show when the cracks were really appearing I think she did the best she possibly could have done and that to me is the success of all the work she did on herself with counselling. I’m sure prior to counselling it wouldn’t have made it to a marriage let alone much long after that. I saw that Jason seem to struggle and resent her success and her money. He was never going to be able to survive and allow her to feel good about all that so he’s better off with a small town girl (mentality wise anyway) – and she probably a combination of really successful, smart man but with a really good sense of himself. Not easy to find but hey, she’s got so much else that she’s still my hero anyway. Thanks for writing.x

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