by Rebecca Dettman from www.psychedinstilettos.com
A couple of years ago I did a reading for a woman who told me her childhood had consisted of “mental, physical, sexual and spiritual abuse”. The idea of ‘spiritual abuse’ has stayed with me ever since — the notion of forcing or brainwashing children to adhere to a particular belief system, or cramming loads and loads of information on specific topic(s) down their throats. It’s easy to understand this in terms of cults, sects and archaic orthodox religions, but the woman above had surprisingly been spiritually abused with New Age stuff, being forced to undertake endless astrology, angel, kabbala, chakra and psychic courses. It’s hard to imagine there’d be much bad stuff in these courses, but the fact remains: she didn’t choose it, she didn’t want it, she was too young, and she wasn’t interested. Thus, these courses served to have the opposite intended effect: rather than teaching her to trust the universe and her psychic inner self, as an adult, she has become totally information-overloaded, freaked out and internally lost.
I mention all this because it’s SO important with all learning, beliefs, spiritual traditions etc that each individual arrive at their choices themselves. You might be deeply concerned / furious / embarrassed that your best friend has entered the world of pyramid marketing, or that your mother has started attending way too many Christian prayer groups, or that your son wants to study pharmacy next year and you think he’s making the worst decision of his life. And if you work as a spiritual or healing practitioner, you might find yourself frequently ethically or personally disagreeing with some of your clients’ actions or beliefs. Bottom line: People need to walk their own paths to figure out their own stuff. Of course they’re going to make mistakes and occasionally walk the ‘wrong’ paths. Haven’t you? And looking back, aren’t you glad you did? — because now you know something (for real, from genuine personal experience) that’s made you who you are today.
It’s human nature to believe that we’re right and others are wrong. And it’s human nature to attack people who are making choices that don’t resonate with our own. I’m saying: catch yourself, rise above it, and let it go. And here’s the hardest part: never bother to offer someone advice until they are ready to hear it. How will you know? They will ask you. And THAT’S a powerful transformational moment. 🙂
ARE YOU OBSESSED WITH BEING RIGHT? BE HONEST, WHAT WAS THE LAST ‘I’M RIGHT’ CONVERSATION YOU COULD HAVE LET GO?