There are a few things that sound the alarm bells for me when I meet a new guy. One of them that truly turns me right off – is when they start to slag off their exes in the early stages of getting to know them. Putting ‘bitter’ out there first cab off the rank, leaves me just wanting to walk home instead……
The last two guys I spent time with did exactly that. And rather than them thinking that I’d be on their side…it did quite the reverse. Aren’t the rules of first dates that I NOT tell you about the losers that came before them? Apparently not….
So the first guy spent literally two hours telling me how the last 5 or 6 girls he dated all ended being ‘psycho’s’. YAWN. Men using the word ‘pyscho’s’ just leaves me so cold. It’s such a boring, standard summing up of two personalities that just didn’t work out.
The other reason why men refer to their exe’s as ‘pyscho’s’ is that they know that it turns a lot of women on. “oh wow, you must really have something that just sent her crazy about you and I want to find out what that is!”
The other standard old chestnut, is that for some women, too many to mention, is that it makes them feel sexy and powerful to know that they are with the man that another women couldn’t have. The man that broke HER heart, but who’s I still have a chance at winning.
All in all, men that refer to their exe’s as pyscho’s, most likely treated the girls poorly and the girls got angry. Not psycho, ANGRY!
And then, again recently, a guy that was ticking a lot of boxes, and certainly came highly recommended, tried using the old ‘snarky’ nickname for his ex with me. “Oh, ‘the princess’!” he says. ‘The Princess insisted while we were on holiday that we had to buy fresh sheets to cart around with us when we were in Europe because she couldn’t bear the thought of touching ‘their sheets’.
Now, c’mon, just because the girl, has a slight hygiene issue, and one that thankfully isn’t the fact she needs to lift hers, it’s that she has high standards in regards to – is that really such an issue that she ends up no doubt copping the rolling of his eyes on holiday when really, he should be more concerned about making it a fun, romantic trip.
And is it truly a huge enough deal, that she spends a couple of Euro’s and takes up a few layers in the suitcase with a fresh sheet, to niggle him so much that he gives her a post break up nickname? Wow, who the princess here? At least her tiara’s fresh!
Bottom line is, it seems a little silly and naïve for someone to think that by telling a new ‘potential’ how bitter they can be when it doesn’t work out, that those of us with half a brain cell, might presume that when we decide to go our separate ways, that he won’t have a much nastier name for me to the next girl?
If you think a fresh sheet is high maintenance, you aint seen nothing yet buddy!