*I really love the www.dailyom.com, especially this writer Madisyn Taylor. She’s one of the wisest women in the cyber world…I sometimes wonder if she might just be a little angel pretending to be a writer, tapping away up there in the sky.
December 18, 2014
Unblocking the Ally
by Madisyn Taylor
Anger can easily become our go-to emotion; to remedy, start noticing when and why you get angry.
Sometimes when we feel anger, it is coming from a deep place that demands acknowledgment and expression. At these times, it is important that we find healthy ways to honor our anger, remembering how dangerous it is to repress it. However, anger can also become a habit, our go-to emotion whenever things go wrong. Often this is because, for whatever reason, we feel more comfortable expressing anger than we do other emotions, like sadness. It can also be that getting angry gives us the impression that we’ve done something about our problem. In these cases, our habitual anger is inhibiting both our ability to express our other emotions and to take action in our lives.
If it’s true that anger is functioning this way in your life, the first thing you might want to try is to notice when you get angry. You might begin to see a pattern of some kind. For example, you could notice that it is always your first response or that it comes up a lot in one particular situation. If the pattern doesn’t become clear right away, you could try keeping a journal about when you get angry and see if you can find any underlying meaning. The good thing about keeping a journal is that you can explore your anger more deeply in it—from examining who in your family of origin expressed a lot of anger to how you feel when you encounter anger in others. This kind of awareness can be a formidable agent of transformation.
Anger can be a powerful ally, since it is filled with energy that we can harness and use to create change in the world. It is one of the most cathartic emotions, and it can also be a very effective cleanser of the emotional system. However, when it becomes a habit, it actually loses its power to transform and becomes an obstacle to growth. Identifying the role anger plays in your life and restoring it to its proper function can bring new energy and expansiveness to your emotional life.
I saw this movie recently, and I have to say that it has really, truly opened me up to a way of thinking about the heart, my heart in a way I’d never thought of before. I mean I think about my soul, I think abut my spirit, I think about my ego, my intuition and i think about Higher Self, but it blows me away that I only think about my heart if it’s to do with a discussion or thought about meeting a man. But even then, I feel this is such a limited way of acknowledging something that quite possibly has more power than all of the above. And might be more useful for me to get in touch with, and listen to than any of these other parts that I have got to know along the way. Maybe the heart, is the ruling Queen of them all? I think one day we might all be talking about our hearts a lot more broadly than we ever have before. x