VIDEO COLLECTIONS…THE GOOD, THE BAD, AND THE JUST PLAIN ODD…

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IT’S ALWAYS ‘AUSTRALIA DAY’ TO US.

JO STANLEY – WRITER, RADIO HOST, COMEDIAN, MUM

Jo Stanley is one of the most successful radio girls in Australia, having been one half of Melbourne’s most popular FM breakfast radio shows for 12 years on FOX FM.  Having done breakfast radio on SAFM myself, for less than 4 years, I know only too well how hard it can be dealing with your alarm clock screaming in your ear at 4.20am Monday to Friday, and living most days, for me anyway, feeling like you’ve got perpetual jet lag. But what might seem to others as a great way to get paid, rock up each morning and just have a whole lot of fun chats, the truth is that you don’t always feel like the confident happy girl you’re there to portray.  There’s the constant reminder that you need to be liked, by as many people as possible, and when you don’t always feel this inside about yourself, there can be an enormous about of paranoia and anxiety that you have to do your best to hide and contain.  Here Jo shares her side of her 12 years of being popular.  Her honesty and ability to share the truth about what she was really feeling much of the time, I know so many others can relate to, regardless of their occupation.  I hope you enjoy this, and I thank Jo Stanley for being the fabulous woman she is, be accepting this interview.

WHAT’S THE BUZZ?  CHANNEL 7.  REGULAR SPOT WHICH IS ALWAYS FUN!

FIONA PATTEN – LEADER OF THE AUSTRALIAN SEX PARTY

Fiona Patten is the leader of the Australian Sex Party.  A few years ago I interviewed her for a series I was working on that I hoped to highlight some truly great women, who weren’t so much on the usual list of celebrity women being celebrated by the media at the time.  Fiona Patten for me encompassed the kind of woman that interested me.  Sure I might be a lot less liberal or even comfortable, with the overall subject of sex, although I know I arrived here on this planet thanks to this three letter word, but I like having different views to other women.  I like them to be comfortable enough to state their claims, and I’m always open to having my mind changed about pretty much anything.  Fiona has since gone on to win a seat in parliament, and I couldn’t be happier for her.  I am yet to meet any single person, after my spending much time with Fiona since this interview, that does not come away feeling better about themselves after meeting this woman, and also thoroughly impressed by all the unique wisdom and good energy that she oozes.  I hope you enjoy our conversation.

ANGELA WHITE – PORN STAR

It may sound a little like I have sex on the brain, and maybe for a moment at the end of last year, I did have.  I did have because I was invited to the Australian Adult Industry Awards by Ms Fiona Patten.  It was there that I discovered a world of people whose role it is, in their own unique ways, to provide the sexual stimulation that we Australians need, and also the services and products that we consume.  One of the stars of the night, not just at this awards show but also in homes all over the world, is Angela White.  She is so much more than you’d expect.  This is your thinking woman’s porn star and entrepreneur.  Whether or not you agree with her role in the world, I think you have to agree, she’s a trail blazer in the Adult Industry, which is not going away.  Welcome to Angela White…

WILLIAM ALBON – PRESIDENT OF THE AUSTRALIAN ADULT ENTERTAINMENT INDUSTRY and THE REPRESENTATIVE FOR THE AUSTRALIAN BROTHEL OWNERS

I met the very charming, Matt Preston of the sex industry at the Australian Adult Industry Awards.  Naturally, I was rather fascinated to find out all the ins and outs, pardon the pun, of what really goes on inside Australia’s brothels.  I also wanted to know…”So what the hell does your Mum think of this career of yours?” Filmed and directed by Audience Productions

THE TRUTH BEHIND TEX PERKINS ON HIS ‘SAVE THE PALAIS’ CAMPAIGN

OFF WITH YOUR CLOTHES BLOG – OLIVIA CREMA & KELSEY DRUWARD

Ever wondered what it takes to create a successful fashion blog?  There is a science behind building an online following, which these two besties have managed to do.  Here Kade Greenland and I found out in the tricks of the fashion blogging trade, including how to not be a hashtag offender (beware you don’t get pulled over!)

GORGEOUS SHANELLE FRANKLIN INTERVIEWS THE EATPRAYPARTGIRLS (follow us on instagram, twitter and facebook) at the Bliss ‘n’Esso launch

TREVOR HENDY IS AN EX CHAMPION IRON MAN, BUT IN HIS CURRENT PHASE OF LIFE, HE’S ONE OF THE MOST INSPIRATIONAL SPIRITUAL MEN IN AUSTRALIA.  LISTEN TO ME EAR BASH HIM HERE, AND CHECK OUT HIS BOOTCAMP FOR THE SOUL – http://soulbootcamp.trevorhendy.com/

REAL HOUSEWIVES OF MELBOURNE STAR,  GINA LIANO AT THE LAUNCH OF HER FABULOUS SHOES.  (excuse the iphone sound…)

MY ‘WHEN HARRY MET SALLY’ MOMENT AT THE ADELAIDE MARKETS, ON ASSIGNMENT FOR EATPRAYPARTY (warning, things went a little pear shaped)

MARK ‘THE MEATMAN’ EXPLAINS ‘BUM BURNERS’ AT THE ADELAIDE MARKETS

THE MASTER OF ORACLE CARDS,  TONI CARMINE SALERNO.  LOVE LOVE LOVE HIM

GOING BACK TO THE ROOT OF MY HEALING. CATCHING UP WITH LORRAINE WEBB FROM THE ADELAIDE HEALING ENERGY CENTRE.

SAFM – BREAKFAST RADIO SHOW (2007-2010)

It feels like a lifetime ago that I was getting up every week morning at 4.20am, to head off to my breakfast radio job at SAFM.  Here are a few of our station commercials and cross promotional TV campaigns:

THERE IS A VERY, VERY GOOD REASON THIS VIDEO SITS AT THE BOTTOM OF THE PILE.  AND ALWAYS WILL DO.

Washed up at 40? Time for the half time pep talk.

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MANY years ago I remember reading an interview with Michelle Pfeiffer where she spoke about how nobody warns women how tough it is in your twenties.

I thought it was a good point to make as it can be a troubling time – not quite knowing who you are, where you’re going and all the that – even though older age groups seem to think you have the world at your feet.

Which of course you do but when there’s so much at your feet, how do you know what to step over and what to pick up?

Now at the halfway mark of life as I am and anyone else just over the age of 40 might be, there’s another chapter that nobody warned a lot of us about. I’d like to flag it right here because it’s another tough one, I think.

Why is it, I’d like to ask, that they only seem to publicly discuss a midlife crisis if it happens to be the poor old stereotypical bloke racing around town in the red sports car and the dizzy blonde strapped in next to him?

It’s not like the rest of the population other than this generic guy manages to avoid the halfway mark and do not have a few looming questions to answer and a swag of anxious thoughts about the future.

Forget the wanting a sports car or miniskirt to try and convince yourself you’re still in your heyday. How about the feeling that you’ve still hopefully still got the same amount of time left on the planet as you’ve had on it?

How about the fact that you might have reached a point where you’re bored to tears with what you’ve been doing career-wise or even personally?

It’s not like you’ve got any cheerleaders behind you thrusting their pom-poms at you singing, “Hey you, what you going to do?”

It can actually feel like you’ve hit an age where no one is watching, no one really cares and everyone else seems to be getting the good jobs. Everyone else being the ones a decade or so younger than you.

I’ve got friends my age who are qualified lawyers. But after taking a few years out of the game they now can’t even get a gig as a legal secretary. What’s with that?

And why can’t a woman with 20 years experience in a niche field such as the music industry now not even get a job as a receptionist at a record company? It’s not like she’s hard of hearing or knitting a scarf behind the reception counter as Joel Madden saunters in.

Why is experience at the age of 40-plus no longer even considered relevant?

Another thing that should be discussed more about this midway mark is this: given you still have so much of your life ahead, how about the fact that you might now be able to take up something new? Switch gear of a non-sports car nature and do something completely different?

You’ve got the wisdom of years, possibly a friendship network that can help you work out how to go about starting a fresh venture, so why don’t we celebrate this new-found freedom? Why does it seem we just encourage people to think about their retirement as soon as they can?

I like the explanation that a friend’s therapist gave her recently which, for the record, was not just a patronising ”You’ll be right, love – here’s some lip service”.

Instead he said this: “What people don’t realise is that many of us are actually late bloomers. They’re meant to do their best work in the second half of their lives.”

It’s a little sad that society seems to feel that unless you’re a CEO of something that you’re almost washed up at 40, when in reality life and opportunities are a long way from over.

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(new episode) WHAT IS LONELINESS? WHY ARE SOME PROFESSIONALS CALLING IT AN ‘EPIDEMIC’?

In this episode we discuss the subject of loneliness in an attempt to understand exactly what it is and why it might be the next ‘mental health’ subject after depression and anxiety, that we need to focus on. Amber believes loneliness has ‘it’s own voice’. Erin believes her grandfather passed away because of it. We talk to Professory John Cacioppo from the Chicago Center for Cognitive & Social Neuroscience
University of Chicago, about this internal study on what he calls ‘THE LONELINESS EPIDEMIC’

My new podcast with Erin Wallis, ON FOR YOUNG & OLD….episode one.

I really love the whole world of podcasting. I love the freedom it gives you to go and seek out the sort of content you want to hear. The sort of people that truly interest you. I rarely listen to radio much these days because I’m busy listening to my favourite podcasters. It made me think about starting a podcast myself to talk about the sorts of things that I wish other people might like to consider. I’ve also been a big believer in the the world we live in today, should not be a world of ‘us and them’, depending on your age. I understand being 45 that I grew up without the technology I have around me today. I didn’t even grow up with a mobile phone, which I know to some of my younger friends, like my co-host of this podcast, seems kind of crazy and odd. We used to actually dial a number and speak to the other person in order to still stay in touch. We used our voices, not just one finger to communicate. I know that the young girls and guys who I work with don’t really recall much about the time when social media wasn’t a part of their every day. I want to learn from them when I hear there’s something new and exciting emerging in the digital space, but I also want to learn just as much about the world that existed before I was around, or at least a small kid. I want those that came before me to tell me what to look out for as I head into a different ‘tick box’ in life. And I don’t want these wise older souls to feel that they are obscelete in a world that seems at times like it is leaving them behind. I think we all have something to learn from each other no matter what age, who we are, or what we’re doing with our lives. So this is where I hope this podcast and future episodes will take both me, my younger, incredibly smart friend Erin, and maybe even you? Thanks for listening. x

LIE DETECTOR TESTS, KEANU REEVES, GOTCHA CALLS…AN AVERAGE DAY ON BREAKFAST RADIO

Once upon a time I was on a breakfast radio show called The Rabbit, Amber & Cosi show. Interesting days to say the very least. I am grateful for the lessons and for being able to love on the job. Not so much the early starts.

Our Gotcha Call that was so silly we all turned into cartoon characters.

I was probably the most gullible on our team at SAFM. Actually hang on, ‘probably’ is a word easily thrown around by those that might still be clutching to denial. OK, so I got done really bad by Rabbit’s Gotcha’s more than any other person in the history of him doing them. There I said. Here’s a highlight reel that I’m pretty sure got added to beyond this point. Much to my gullible annoyance…

I wasn’t always gullible though, sometimes I was just really tired. No really, I was.

You never quite knew what to expect in an average week on SAFM. A WEEK IN REVIEW…

Like all good FM radio shows sometimes we used our position to sing songs. In the vague hope that someone might discover us. Cosi and I still think it’s a little odd that Will I.Am has spent so much bloody time in Australia filming THE VOICE, yet he hasn’t bothered to pick up the phone to at least tell us, that you know what, “You guys nailed this song. Your interpretation of the lyrics were clever and you both, more so Amber, hit all the right keys.” Thankfully we’re not the types that need praise.

As an FM radio show, we were of course always committed to uncovering the truth on a whole range of important subjects. No more so than which guy on the show do I think is the most sexy?

It wasn’t always easy sharing an interview with two other people. Especially when you’re interviewing Keanu Reeves nd you’re pretty sure, like 23% sure that Keanu and you were meant to be together romantically, yet our first conversation ever includes two handbrakes in it. I do feel 18% sure this is why it never worked out with myself and Keanu. I’m still free if you’re reading this now Keanu. You can reach me on Facebook, Twitter or Instagram. x

It wasn’t always talking total shit on our breakfast show, there was two minutes in 2008 when I turned 38 that Cosi was a really good shoulder to lean on, on and off air as I had what can only be commonly known as A SINGLE GIRLS MELTDOWN. It hit me hard that year that I was not like all my friends, most of which were happily married and had gorgeous kids, and I wasn’t sensing any of this was coming for me. And guess what? I was right. But I’m ok now. I have a dog.

And then somewhere around the first half of 2010, the boss at SAFM called me in to tell me it was time for me to leave the show. I was shocked, humiliated, hurt, but I drove off that day of my last show knowing I had made this happen. The universe had shut a door I had been fantasizing about closing myself. It was kind of tough to get on air and our there in the media telling people that it was my choice to go. But you know what, it’s part of the radio deal. You get ‘boned, knifed, and welcomed back’ by smiling faces that may have once given you the flick. My only regret was that I went along with one final segment on the show where the boys (driven by one of the bosses), sent me off to record audio pretending to find me another job. Not quite a respectful concept to forced on the girl who’s just been given the boot. But hey, that’s FM radio for you folks. Here is my leaving ‘tribute’ piece.